girls how about you?

[carol.prime]

i know lots of you had an account to the different sites such as myspace, facebook or friendster, however here in our place friendster is the most common sites used by many of us...

here is the question: what will you do if your bf got lot of friends in his friend list but you, that his gf...doesn't listed there..and he always asks for the number of most "friends" he had...what actions are you gonna do with that?.. :Oh crap

[sparke002]

...get other friends to post stuff about you on his space.... like your pic...giggles

[Panky]

Something like that doesn't bother me at all. My BF has accounts at a few sites like that. He talks with strangers, people he went to school with and ex-girlfriends. I could care less.

If someone is concerned about their relationship with someone, talk to that person. Don't assume because someone does this or that that it means you're loved any less, someone is keeping their options open, someone is thinking of cheating, or things like that.

Some people keep things private for a reason. Doesn't necessarily mean there is anything wrong with the relationship.

Communication is the key. If it is something that concerns you, just ask him.

[ScreaM]

Let me guess - this happened to you?

[dekaz]

I'm assuming that you are experiencing this with your bf.

Aren't you more then just his friend? Go add him, if he doesn't add you then question him. Asking for numbers from his friends is normal and everyone does that to keep in touch with his buddies. You can be suspicious if your routines with him starts to suddenly change.

[LittleSassy]

it's always your decision what you want to do with your bf carol...

but as what i understand from the case, it's like that guy was prioritizing or should i say getting prospects from those girls in his friendster list -- he even get their numbers, for what??? hm... u know what i mean. and the sad thing is that you - his gf - he didn't add you in his list! oh crap! well, maybe it's normal with girls to be jealous but you know what to do...

[carol.prime]

Originally Posted by ScreaM

Let me guess - this happened to you?

yes scream...
and hope you could give me advice with that..

[alessandro]

I'm starting to dislike that kind of sites ( myspace, hi5 etc. ). While the ideas behind them were good, things are going into a wrong direction IMHO. I lost any interest in even visiting them.

[ScreaM]

Originally Posted by carol.prime

yes scream...
and hope you could give me advice with that..

I remember you had problems with your BF. You said he always makes you cry (cheated on you twice) and yet you love him a lot.

So, are you still seeing that guy?

I'm sorry for you, honey.

[ScreaM]

Btw Carol.prime, like Panky said, communication is the key. Talk to him and see.

[Booboo]

I have all of my hubbys logins and knows where he visits because he tells me. I believe as the other poster mentioned - communication is key. If there is a gut feeling about things then go with it but otherwise if he's just chatting it up - no harm.

[McP]

Originally Posted by carol.prime

...what will you do if your bf got lot of friends in his friend list but you, that his gf...doesn't listed there..and he always asks for the number of most "friends" he had......

The deeper question is probably - does this in itself.. matter?

Originally Posted by BooBoo

If there is a gut feeling about things then go with it but otherwise if he's just chatting it up - no harm.

Precisely - Sometimes we can scratch around looking for reasons for why something "doesn't feel right", find something that looks suspicious (but was actually OK) then start to give it more attention than it deserves. If you challenge him on this, you risk moving into the jealous gf area which isn't helpful but as panky says - just talking with him in general about your apprehensions is the way to go. Hope these help ..

[docputer]

I have myspace etc, as does my wife. We have a pretty healthy relationship. We don't really care what the other does on the internet. We usually talk about what we do and who we talk to. She has all kinds of guys asking her for nude pics, or to have sex chat with her, and mostly we have fun with it. Like everyone says, communication is the key.

[pornvue]

well ask him to add you if its really a big deal for you...dunno exactly what's the problem

[carol.prime]

thanks for all the message guys...
ill talk to him soon...

[Tremor]

If you're getting into arguments over websites, call it quits. It will only get worse.

[destinie]

I think it depends on the situation. My boyfriend doesn't go online hardly at all and I trust him fully in that way (and I'm not one to trust easily). However I have a ton of male friends on my MySpace and to me they're just names and occasional "hello's", usually having to do with common web development stuff. He trusts me in that way too. He and I have our problems in other areas, but this is probably a huge reason why I won't give up on us. The foundation of trust is there, followed by the ability to communicate. This isn't common though, especially in this day and age of lust at our fingertips and a few keystrokes away.

Good luck on this Carol. Trust is SO hard to rebuild if it's been broken. I think it's probably not the websites themselves but like Tremor said, far more at play and that can lead to only heartache. If your gut is telling you something is up, nine out of 10 times you're usually right. I know this isn't at ALL comforting and I'm sorry for that.

You deserve a guy you don't have to second guess. I pray it all works out for you!

[ScreaM]

Originally Posted by destinie

I think it depends on the situation. My boyfriend doesn't go online hardly at all and I trust him fully in that way (and I'm not one to trust easily). However I have a ton of male friends on my MySpace and to me they're just names and occasional "hello's", usually having to do with common web development stuff. He trusts me in that way too. He and I have our problems in other areas, but this is probably a huge reason why I won't give up on us. The foundation of trust is there, followed by the ability to communicate. This isn't common though, especially in this day and age of lust at our fingertips and a few keystrokes away.

Good luck on this Carol. Trust is SO hard to rebuild if it's been broken. I think it's probably not the websites themselves but like Tremor said, far more at play and that can lead to only heartache. If your gut is telling you something is up, nine out of 10 times you're usually right. I know this isn't at ALL comforting and I'm sorry for that.

You deserve a guy you don't have to second guess. I pray it all works out for you!

Good post Destinie.